When you’re in the thick of wedding planning, it’s easy to lose sight of what matters most on your wedding day. Between scrolling Pinterest, juggling expectations, and trying to craft a “perfect” celebration, the heart of the day can get buried under pressure and perfectionism.
As a wedding photographer who has walked alongside many couples through this journey, I want to gently remind you: your wedding is not about impressing anyone—it’s about celebrating your love. Let’s talk about what really matters on your wedding day, and what doesn’t.
What Matters Most On Your Wedding Day
1. The Covenant You’re Making
This is the heart of it all. Your wedding is the first day of your marriage—not just a production for guests or followers. The promises you make, the vows you speak, and the way you look into each other’s eyes—that’s sacred. That’s what your day is all about.
2. The Way You Feel
You deserve to feel calm, joyful, and present. Not rushed. Not chaotic. Not worried about centerpieces or whether the flat lay got photographed. If you feel grounded and cared for, you’ll look back and remember the feeling of the day—not the tiny imperfections.
3. The People Who Show Up With Their Hearts Open
It’s not the guest count or the seating chart that matters most—it’s the presence of people who love you. Whether it’s a crowd or a handful of your closest family and friends, what matters is sharing this moment with people who are for you. Not with those you feel pressured to impress or who drain your energy.
4. The Real Moments (Not Just the Photos of Them)
I believe in beautiful, artistic photography—but not at the cost of living your day. The real memories happen in the pauses: a tearful hug with your grandmother, the way your dad squeezes your hand, the look on your fiancé’s face when you walk down the aisle. That’s where the magic is. Yes I’ll photograph that too (quietly and without intrusion)- but don’t think about perfecting every emotional moment, just live in them.
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5. Being True to Yourselves
Every couple is different. There is no rulebook. You don’t have to follow a timeline or aesthetic that doesn’t reflect you. If you want to write your own vows, wear a short dress, or skip the garter toss—do it. You’re not performing; you’re beginning a marriage.
What Doesn’t Actually Matter
1. The Weather
I know it’s hard to believe, but I’ve seen rain-soaked weddings that were more joyful and romantic than any sunny day could’ve been. Weather can change your plans, but it can’t take away your purpose.
2. Going Viral
Your wedding isn’t content. It doesn’t have to impress the internet. The most meaningful days I’ve photographed were often the most private—crafted with intention, not for algorithms, but for legacy.
3. Perfect Execution
Something will go “wrong.” A boutonniere might go missing, or a schedule might shift. But those aren’t flaws—they’re stories. Your wedding isn’t a performance to be critiqued; it’s a day to be lived.
4. Impressing Others
If you’re making choices to avoid judgment or comparison, take a step back. Your wedding is for you and your person. Choose what reflects your love—not what fits someone else’s mold, Pinterest board, or Instagram feed.
5. Every Little Detail
Details can be lovely—but they don’t define your day. You can pour love into the tablescapes and florals (and I’ll capture them beautifully!), but know this: no one will remember the font on your place cards. They’ll remember how the day felt.
A Gentle Reminder From Someone Who’s Seen It All
You only get this day once. And it goes by so fast.
So pause. Breathe. Hold your fiancé’s hand. Look into the faces of the people who love you. Cry happy tears. Laugh too loud. Kick off your shoes and dance under the stars. Let the day be imperfectly, beautifully yours.
And let me handle the photos.
With love,
Sarah
